The Courage to Purge
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up is all the rage. We at Enough think it should be! We live in a society of abundance where distribution of resources is sorely out of whack. We live among hoarders. We inherit our grandparent’s knack for saving things just in case the next great depression is around the corner. Yet our stuff weighs us down. There have been studies linking messiness and clutter to depression, especially in women. And what better time then now, when we may acquire a whole bunch of new stuff at Christmas, to talk about purging.
Purging is important. It puts stuff back into circulation, hopefully handing things we don’t use off to people who will.
If we find methods that help us purge on a regular basis, we are more likely to be creative and effective with our recirculation methods. I just had a friend drastically downsize after living in a home for 27 years. She could not take the time to purge strategically, handing things off to the right people and organizations and recycling when she could. Because it was such a big task, she admits that too much just went in the trash. Nothing ever gets thrown away, as we know, but thrown to a new place. Often, trash means landfill.
If we purge mindfully over time and make it a way of life, I think we also become much savvier consumers over time, too. Our purchasing habits change. We notice what we use and what we don’t and stop buying things we won’t fully utilize. If we purge often, we will think twice before buying something we may just purge a few months later.
And it is, indeed, tied to joy and the weight we carry around with us.
So many people desperately want to be free of unnecessary stuff, but have little to no idea where to start. Purging can be intimidating and overwhelming. I have ask the Enough ladies for their assistance in getting you started with a few helpful hints that work for us. Here is what Emily, Heidi and I have to share:
How to Let Go:
#1:Purge In Increments
Choose to do a little every day, every week or every month. If you decide to do spring cleaning once a year, it may be too overwhelming to accomplish. But if you take on one room or one closet a month, then you can be done in a short time, and keep a rotating upper hand on accumulation. This also helps you keep nooks and crannies cleaner – I find that when I purge a closet or cubby, I am inspired to wipe away dust bunnies I hadn’t known were there. You know why I am a good purger? Because I moved every year of my life for a decade. Nothing like having to pack and unpack items to take a good look at your stuff. Travel lightly even if you are settled. Pretend like you move every two years.
#2: One-Year Rule
Ask of every item: Have I used this in the last year? If the answer is no, get rid of it. Good reasons to break this rule include: I have set plans already to use it in the near future, or it holds tremendous sentimental value and I’ve intentionally decided to keep it. Otherwise, if it has been in a box for a year, you don’t need it. Out it goes. With clothes, try it at the end of each season when it is fresh in your mind. If you didn’t wear a sweater once in a whole winter season, chances are you won’t wear it next year.
#3: One-Day Rule
When going through clothes I ask, “Will I wear this tomorrow?” If not, I don’t like it enough to keep it. If I am not going to wear it tomorrow, I won’t wear the next day or the next. You can try the same with books. “Would I pick this book up to read tomorrow?”
#4: Keep An Active Goodwill Bag At All Times
Become a chronic purger by constantly questioning the usefulness of your stuff. Challenge yourself to walk things straight over to an active Goodwill bag that you keep out of sight. Once or twice a month, when running an errand near a second hand shop, drop the bag off and start a new one right away.
#5: Let the Bag Speak to You
Be aggressive with what goes in the Goodwill bag at first. Put more than you think you should in the bag and try out life without it. If you miss an item, go back and get it. You’ll be surprised what you don’t miss.
#6: Establish an Identity
Self-identify as a purger. It gets you a lot of respect at parties. When it comes up, people want to know all about it. The sheer act of having an identity of a purger as a positive things will fuel you to continue to be a purger. We feel amazing when we purge. We feel amazing when we talk about purging. Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool.
#7: Only Buy What You Love
This is a challenge if you love deals or freebies. Be thoughtful and intentional with purchases. Decline a perfectly good free thing that you don’t really needing in the first place.
Be Savvy About Storage:
#1: Store In Clear, Labeled Boxes
If you can’t see something, you’ll forget you have it and won’t use it properly.
#2: Garages and Basements
Are potential black holes for stuff. If you have them, pretend like you don’t and see how you would prioritize your stuff. Limit the areas in your home that you use for storage.
#3: Let the Storage Dictate the Volume
Have a set number of bins, bookshelves or hangers. If you buy a new shirt and don’t have a hanger for it, something has to get donated to free up the hanger. If your bins are full and you have something to store that you want to keep, it is time to look at what you aren’t using. As you get braver, cut down on the number of hangers and bins and bookshelves you use. This will help you keep volume under control.
Kids and Stuff
Kids come with stuff. It’s unavoidable. But they will benefit from you being intentional about how much stuff they have access to:
#1: Go “Shopping” in the Basement
Keep half of their toys in bins in the basement. On a Saturday, make it a fun event to go shopping in the basement. The kid gets to choose how many items to bring down and swap out.
#2: Be Honest About Gifts
It’s hard, but it will pay off in the long run to be honest with friends and family about how much stuff you want coming in at each birthday and holidays. Think about quality over quantity and experiential gifts. The normal you create will be normal for your child. Ask for second hand things. Model to your children by having them donate things they feel finished with.
#3: Swap Out Seasonally
Keep some toys in storage and every few months, when you sense your child needs a refresher, swap the toys out for toys in storage. It will keep toy exciting for longer and limit clutter.
#1: Go Strictly Utilitarian
When something comes in, something else goes out. Every item you buy or are given as a gift must replace something you currently own. Purchases are for when things need to be replaced.
#2: Buy Used
Don’t buy anything new except food, underwear and personal care items. Shop at thrift shops primarily or just continuing to use old stuff.
#3: Gift Boundaries
Make boundaries around gifts that you will accept. It isn’t a gift if it causes more stress due to being just another thing you don’t need and have to take care of and find a spot for.
#4: Become a Swapper
The more you do things like host clothes swaps or share items with friends, the more loosely you’ll start holding on to objects. Ownership will feel different and you’ll trust that you’ll always have enough.
#5: Quality vs Quantity
Think about what is worth investing in that will last.
Please let us know your purging tricks in our comments section, and let us know which tips worked for you! Happy Purging!