Just Say No

Just Say No


There are some things where faking it til you make it, just doesn’t work. Here is one…MULTI-TASKING. I can’t fake it. I can’t dissociate. I can’t say one thing and do another. I can’t feel one thing, and act out of alignment with that feeling. I can’t multi-task; and a part of me dies every time I try.

I don’t know about you, but my brain only has the quality to focus on one thing effectively at a time. In a way, I’m saying, I can’t argue with reality anymore, reality wins. Better yet, I refuse to divide my mind, heart and soul in a way that leaves me powerless. I want to harness all my energy into my life. Screw Nike, I don’t want to Just Do It. I want to wholeheartedly do it. And by it, I mean be fully engaged with each moment of my life.

Why the hell is it considered a strength to multitask? What do we mean by multitasking anyway? Don’t we really mean separating our hearts and minds from full engagement with the task at hand? Are we not training ourselves to have ADD? How is that desirable? I suppose if we were robots and our outcome was to produce as much output and accumulate as much stuff as possible that might be appealing. Here’s the catch, I’m not a robot, or a human doing, I’m a human being.

Is that really what the outcome of a human life has come down to? I don’t know about you, but on my death bed I don’t think I will find peace by saying to myself, “I did more shit and accumulated more stuff than anyone else”. I find no solace there. I want to feel at peace that I brought all of myself, body, mind and soul to all of the moments of my life. That the people’s lives I crossed felt loved and that I was fully present with them.

I know my minds trying to keep me safe and protect me from being vulnerable, saving that vulnerability for some distant time when I have it all figured out. But life is happening NOW, I want to be vulnerable NOW.  Doesn’t being a human being mean we crave connection and intimacy? Isn’t separation another from of hell? Are we not, in a way training ourselves to live a life in hell while still alive? Don’t you see? What a soul crush, I say NO.


Stephen Covey said it well,

“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage-pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically-to say “no” to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. 

 I say, no to multitasking, cause I say yes to wholeheartedly living. I say yes to full engagement with life. Can you feel me?