Curve Balls And What To Do With Them

Curve Balls And What To Do With Them

            You know that saying, the one about how life sometimes throws a curveball? It popped into my head the other day, and I just found the notes that I’d scribbled down when it did.  Seems like a blog worthy topic, yeah?  It’ll do, anyway. So without further adieu, when life throws a curveball, here are a few options: Duck.  You could hit the deck, move yourself out of the oncoming path, avoid interacting with the ball entirely.  And try not to worry about what it ends up hitting behind you.  You could avoid the ball completely. Let it hit you.  You could let the ball make contact and deal with any...

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In Crisis, Love is Enough

In Crisis, Love is Enough

People who just know what to do in the center of crisis amaze me.They don’t wait. They don’t say, “Let me know what I can do.” They just do the right thing. How do they know what to do? Where did they learn that? I desperately want to be one of those people, but I’m not. Yet. In January, crisis happened to me. My baby landed in the hospital for three weeks, and my toddler wasn’t allowed to visit. My spouse and I switched off between home and the hospital like ships passing in the night. My people swooped in and did all the right things to help that I didn’t even know I needed. I paid attention, and now I have some moves to steal. If you, like me, want to...

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A Letter to My Children on the Eve of the Inauguration

Dear Gloria & Harold, Peace be with you my dear children. I started this letter when there was one single day left in 2016. Now there is one single day left before the next president of the US is officially sworn in to office. And I’m sorry. I’m so sorry about the results of the US election. I’m embarrassed by our country. I don’t know what to say sometimes when the topic of the election comes up. I spent so much time the day of the election telling you that I was beyond thrilled to have a woman as president. I was truly certain Hillary would win. She just had to win. I just couldn’t imagine there would be anyone who would seriously, with a deep review of...

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A Room of Her Own

A Room of Her Own

In 1929, Virginia Woolf wrote an extended essay that argued for a literal and figurative space for women writers in a literary tradition dominated by men. The essay is titled “A Room of One’s Own.” Today, the excavation work of creating space for women is still exhaustingly real. Without intentional and constant upkeep, a female space can dissolve in a matter of moments. Yet when carved out and tended to, women take up space and create worlds and languages for the benefit of all. In our home, my spouse and I decided to turn our third bedroom into my writing room. The space is sacred to me. I hung maps and pictures on the walls that tell my story. I put books...

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Belonging to the World

Belonging to the World

I just finished reading Traveling With Pomegranates by Sue Monk Kidd and her daughter Ann Kidd Taylor.  It’s about some traveling they did to Greece and France, separate and together, over the course of a few years and the shifts that came about in each of their lives along the way.  It’s a good book.  I’m not going to get much more into their story other than to say they were each searching for the story that fit for them in a new phase of life.  Ann was moving from college into a choosing a vocation and starting married life, trying to find her place and calling in the world, struggling with depression along the way.  Sue was moving from...

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Every Person Should Know

Every Person Should Know

I stumbled upon this arrangement of words a few months ago, and I filed it away to revisit during those times when I need a reminder of what is good to know.  The original version by Pamela Redmond Satran focuses the piece on women, and I’ve replaced “woman” with “person” in the adapted version below, adopting the use of “they” to acknowledge those who identify as gender neutral. EVERY PERSON SHOULD KNOW How to fall in love without losing the self. How to quit a job, Break up with a lover,  And confront a friend without Ruining the friendship. When to try harder, and when to walk away. EVERY PERSON SHOULD KNOW...

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Belly Banter

Belly Banter

With one month to go, I have reached the point in pregnancy where I often spill food on my belly while eating. The first thing I do when I walk in a room is look for available seating. I waddle. When I drop something, I seriously contemplate if I need to pick it up. If I decide to, I splay my knees to the side to make room for my belly and make an audible sound on the way back up. I rest my hands on my belly ledge. I laugh when I catch a glimpse of my body profile because, well, it’s just crazy absurd how this all works. The size of my belly is the topic of conversation throughout pregnancy, but now is also the point where it is the main and only topic of...

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